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The Psychology of Positively Impacting Those Around Us

It’s fairly normal to grow glum during the winter months or feel stressed and anxious about everything there is to do. Many people suffer from seasonal affective disorder (SAD) when there is less daylight and it becomes cold. SAD can make people depressed and anxious.

There’s a lot we can all do to be more positive and uplifting. Here are some steps to take to bring more positivity and peace into your own life, and to spread those qualities around. Continue reading

Lovers on the Cusp: Everything You Need to Know About Zodiac Cusps and Dating

Have you ever noticed that folks at the beginning or end of a zodiac sign express their sign with a different flavor? The days right at the transition of a sign are called “cusps” and while not all astrologers agree that the cusps are real (some say that your sign is your sign, period, regardless of the day) it’s undeniable that those clustered within the cusp days seem to have their own unique quality.

They may not be your typical Scorpio, for example if they’re born on the Libra or Sagittarius cusp, the Libran cusp being more diplomatic and intellectual, and the Sagittarian side more fiery and independent. They are still at the core a Scorpio, but with a twist, you could say. So what if you’re dating or crushing on one of the mysterious cusp types? Let’s take a look at how they do as mates and lovers.

Pisces-Aries (March 18th – 22nd) astrology

Ooh, fire + water = steam! Pisces and Aries are two of the most different signs in the entire zodiac, so this cusp blends the extreme sensitivity of the fish with the powerful courage of the ram. This makes for an exciting and somewhat unpredictable lover. What they lack in reliability can be made up by being creative and visionary.

This cusp is definitely a sexy one!

Their partners may find them complex or even a bit selfish, but the appeal of their uniqueness helps to balance that out.

You can win the heart of someone on this cusp by being both vulnerable and courageous. Either take the lead or be highly adaptable, but never just stagnate in the middle, or complain about circumstances with these cusp folks. Romantic gestures are treasured!

Aries-Taurus (April 17th – 21st)

Chalk it up to the blending Taurean sensuality with Aries boldness, but natives of this cusp are not shy about going after the object of their lust, no matter the odds. They are also the most likely of all the cusps to be attracted to people who are already taken! Or unavailable for some other reason. Continue reading

6 Important Things To Remember When Loving A Virgo

As a Virgo, I can tell you that the majority of the astrological assumptions made about us are bang-on. I’m normally not one to jump on the bandwagon of descriptive personality traits, but I’ve caught myself nodding my head in agreement over the commonly mentioned characteristics- controlling, critical, obsessive, and a bit overly-honest. These traits make relationships with us very interesting, and knowing how to handle these traits will undoubtedly improve the bond between you and your Virgo partner.

1. Unpradictability is a No-Go
Virgos prefer their life to have some semblance of order and routine. While we can have moments of spontaneity, most of the time we want to know there is a next step, what it is, and how to get there.Romantic-Relationships

If you offer to take your Virgo partner or friend out for dinner and they decline, it isn’t because they don’t love you or don’t want to go, but rather they have other things planned ahead already.

Keep in mind, changing plans isn’t easy for a Virgo because of how much they schedule for themselves on a daily basis. Loving a Virgo means you need to allow them to find stability where they can, and as an Earth sign, stability is very important.

2. Perfectionism vs. Improvement
A common word found in descriptions of Virgos is “perfectionist.” I can’t whole-heartedly agree with that, and would say we are more “improvement-ists.”

It might come across like your Virgo partner is nit-picking, or trying to make things perfect, but what they are really doing is finding ways to improve their life, and yours. Virgos find joy in being useful, and will show their love by helping you in many different ways (even ways you may not realize).

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How to Recognize & End Toxic Fights in Your Relationship

Whether you like someone or not there are going to be times when you have disagreements with your friends, family, partners, spouse, co-workers, or neighbors. Here are some powerful tricks to make sure your relationships are healthy and balanced!

1. Bring Up Problems ASAP

Many people will try to walk on eggshells or avoid bringing up how they feel but this will actually cause a lot of extra stress and issues in your relationship.

When you don’t tell someone how their behavior made you feel it is actually a form of manipulation.  It is holding on to the power or energy instead of passing it back so that they can learn and grow.  If people don’t know how they are affecting you then they cannot fix it.

If you don’t catch it in the moment or it is not an appropriate time make sure you bring it up with them as soon as you can.  The quicker you address issues and resolve them the better everyone will feel.

ar134532768120402Have a hard time catching problems in real time?  One trick is to trust your gut.  If someone says something that creates a strange feeling in your stomach that is a sign that something happened that affected you.

When I get that feeling I will make a point to stop the conversation and if they are a close friend or loved one they will typically help me figure it out.

Example- In a calm balanced tone I will say: “Just a min please, when you said that I felt funny.  I am not sure why but I would like to figure it out before we move on so I can understand what you mean.”

Remember that what you say and what people hear is always going to be different.  This is because our mood, focus and perceptions are always filtering information.  Tone and energy can also be a huge factor in how information is transferred between people.

When issues are brought up stay calm and try to see what really happened instead of getting defensive.  I will go more into this later.

2. Be the Real You

It is very common to act different with friends and loved ones than you do alone or in public.  Part of feeling whole and being true to ourselves it to try and make these versions us as consistent as possible.

Be the real you, do what you feel compelled to do.  Say what you are really feeling.  If you aren’t interested in what someone is saying either find a way to truly get interested or find a topic you are both interested it.

Pretending to listen and be interested isn’t being true to yourself and is harmful to the people around you.  Be honest, polite and genuine in your interactions.

3. Treat People the Way THEY want to be Treated

choco_vanilla_swirl_answer_7_xlargeThats right, because we are all different we cannot treat people the way we want to be treated.  We have to learn more about the people around us and treat them the way they want to be treated.

We can’t feed a room of people our favorite flavor of ice cream and expect them to be as happy and excited about it as we are.  We need to reach out and make sure the people around us know that we know them.  We prove that to them by really getting to know them!

There is a very powerful article written by a hero of mine that goes into this topic more.  Check it out here!

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What does Waking up Really Mean?

What is waking up?  How do I know if I am awake?

If you are familiar with our site and sites like it you may have heard this term “Waking up”.  We hear about all the signs and symptoms of waking up but do we know what it is to actually BE awake?

Lets start with defining what we are talking about and then we will go into what it means on a spiritual level.

If you type “Define Awake” into Google you should see something similar to the picture below.

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Lets see how these definitions help us narrow down what we mean when we say waking up or to be awake spiritually.

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“Prism” ~ Painting by Mynzah

What does it mean to be spiritually asleep?  If you have watched the Spirit Science series or are familiar with the procession of the equinox you will see that we have been asleep as a planet for a very long time.  What this means is that our level of awareness about the connections all around us has declined to a point where we feel separate from everyone and everything around us.

2. Cause (Someone) to Wake from Sleep

Waking up spiritually, in its more basic terms would be to recognize with your whole being your connection to everyone and everything around you.  This is often referred to as the mystical experience as described by Alan Watts.

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3. Regain Consciousness

Regaining consciousness is to remember that we have always been connected with the oneness of the universe.  This is important because it can help us recognize how the mistreatment of others is no different then cutting off your left hand or to poke out one of your eyes.

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4. To become AWARE of; come to the realization of

There are many levels of awareness that come with waking up and ultimately being awake.

  • Some people are born awake and remain awake during their lives. This is very rare but not unheard of.  It is theorized that if a child is nurtured with awareness it will be more aware and able to to stay awake.
  • Catalysts such as events can also cause an awakening within a person.  Powerful transformation doesn’t have to be painful but for some it does come with a lot of pain.  Some people speed up their awakening process when they experience a powerful trauma or are diagnosed with a terminal illness.

Why You Should Love Yourself Made Into A Comic Strip

This is a comic I put together with tremendous inspiration by Elijah Ray, a musician from Hawaii who speaks countless truths and flows amazing love through all of the work that he does. The idea was sparked by Ray Kamille, who shared with me the idea he had to turn this song into an animated cartoon. Cartoons take a really long time to make, and I felt compelled to share this with you in a simpler way, which has manifested in its current form, now :)

Thank you for taking the time to read it, and please enjoy :) 

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Listen to the Original Song on Bandcamp by Clicking Here

Over a year ago, we also put together a music video based on Elijah’s work – a video called “Give Thanks”.

Consider it a bonus to reading this post <3