The Change Up Effect: Why We Really Fear Change

When something is not known or not decided relative to a circumstance that causes us stress or pain, we feel panicked and helpless.  But  there is one particular type of uncertainty that creates the vast majority of our unwillingness to make changes in our life.  The uncertainty is whether or not people are going to change with us.  As people, our survival depends on our connection with each other.KindConnections-franckreporter-lowrez

When  we make changes to ourself or our life, this changes our vibration and in a law of attraction based universe, only things of like-vibration can share the same space.  So what happens if we change our vibration?

We run the risk of no longer being a match to the people who we are currently bonded with in our current vibration.  We run the risk of losing them.  We run the risk of losing our connection.

When we form bonds with other people, we form strong bonds.  So, when we risk losing people by making a specific change to our life, we resist making that change.

If you take a close look at any of the changes you are afraid of making in your life, you will see that at the heart of the fear, is the fear of losong connection with something or someone that you want to be connected with.


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“There is an old saying that goes, To get what you want, you have to let go of what you don’t want”.  This feels a bit like letting go of one ledge of a cliff in the hope that another ledge will catch you.  So it is totally understandable why we would avoid this. This is a tormenting degree of uncertainty.  If you are afraid of change, ask yourself “what or who am I afraid of losing my connection with by making this change?”


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