As nice as it would be to live in a world where everyone is honest and transparent, the truth is, we have a long way to go with that still as a species.  Something that can really help you on your journey is being able to distinguish between a lie and a truth.  It is good to learn the ways to identify a lie NOW so that you don’t have to learn the hard way through experience later.

We all have an intuition and a built-in mechanism of discernment that allows us to distinguish between a lie and a truth.  Knowing if someone is lying is generally easy to do.  The hard part is knowing what to do about.  How do you manage the feeling of being deceived?  Should you say anything to them? How do you bring it up to them?

If you do bring it up to them, you run the risk of hurting them or embarrassing them.  If you don’t bring it up, you have a feeling of dissonance inside you which pollutes your soul.  You may also develop resentment to them down the line.  And hey, maybe they will resent you one day for not calling them out on it to help them out.

So what is the proper way to call someone out when they are lying to you? Here are some good places to start:

1) Ask them the same question in a different way, implying you know that they are lying

Let’s say you want to know where your partner was last night because they got home extra late after work.  You may ask something like “Hey why were you late today?” And they may say “Traffic was support awful coming home today. Went through a couple accidents”.  At this point, if you know they are lying, you may want to ask a follow up question:

“Are you sure there isn’t anything else you did that made you late?”

At this point, you may get an answer like “Well I felt a bit hungry so I stopped off at a restaurant and got some food and a beer”. And then if you feel you are not getting the full truth still, continue to ask more questions.

There will come a point at which you know for certain they are lying, and that they will know you are aware they are lying.  This is a great place to start with confronting someone. Continue reading →

When we think of qualities and attributes will get us to where we want to be in life, we normally think of things like motivation, ambition, determination, persistence, work ethic, and productivity.  Working 6 or 7 days a week, getting up early, planning, and prioritizing are things that we typically think of when we think of success and productivity.

But what if all of this was only partly true, and that the best thing you can do to be productive in life is actually the complete opposite of all of those things?  Relaxation is something that often gets equated with laziness, but in reality it is one of the most productive things you can do for yourself and your career.

Relaxation allows you to actually get more done by preventing burn out, be more creative by preserving mental energy, keep your mind focused on one thing at a time to improve quality of work, and it allows you to enhance your own energetic state (which is the best thing you could produce).  Here are some more reasons why relaxing is the most productive thing you can do:

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Throughout our life, we meet people on our journey who are unforgettable.  As we develop friendships with people, we grow with them, hold each other accountable, and encourage one another to grow and evolve.  It’s interesting that the same archetypal friends appear in everyone’s life, as if it’s woven into the template of the universe that each soul will experience certain characters on their journey.

The older you get, the more you realize how important friendships are.  When it comes down to it, life is about loving relationships.  It’s not about the rat race, proving your point, or building a cozy nest for yourself.  Without relationships, live becomes empty.  This is why it is so important to recognize the people in your life who are worth fighting for.

Here are 7 archetypal friends that are worth fighting for in life

1) The generous one

The one who gives more often than they take.

They want to make sure everyone is happen and content with their end of the deal.

From big things like buying you gifts out of nowhere, to little things like letting you take shotgun in the car, the generous one is an inspiration that service to others is the happiest path you could take in life.

2) The listener

The one who is always down for a heart-to-heart.  They want to help you through your pain, and enjoy acting as a vent for you to clear your mind and energy field of stagnant energy.  They do this because they are naturally empathetic and sympathetic people, and know what it’s like to feel alone, scared, or hurt.  The listener is the kind of person you could be best friends forever with.

3) The uplifter

The one who always encourages you to look on the bright side of things.  Didn’t get the job you want? Maybe the Universe has bigger and better plans for you.

Didn’t get the girl you wanted?  Maybe she wasn’t the proper vibrational match for you and your soul mate awaits you just around the corner.

For everyone hardship you go through, they offer a positive perspective which helps level out your energetic and psychological state.  Being around them is super regenerating and refreshing.

4) The honest one

The one who tells you what you need to hear, even if you don’t want to hear it.

The honest one shoots straight with you to help you understand your own actions and behaviours from outside your own personal perspective.

If you can look passed any defensive instincts you may have, you may just realize that having someone like this in your network of friends is exactly what is needed to help push you into expansion.

5) The big dreamer

The one who wants to take on the world.  They want to reach millions, change the world, and influence as many lives as possible.  These people usually have great leadership qualities, and can offer a huge burst of inspiration into your life.  They teach you to set bigger goals, have faith in yourself, follow your passions, and they do this all be setting the example with your own life.  Keep these people around you.  Sometimes, the best way to improve your life is to surround you with people who encourage you and motivate you just by being themselves.

6) Your soul mate

The one who just clicks with you.  You guys resonate at such a deep and transparent level that it deserves to be called more than just a “friendship”.  It feels as though you both decided to incarnate together and help each other on your journeys.  Your soul mate may not be your partner.

They may just be the person that your soul connects with at the deepest level.  Friends like this come around once in a lifetime. Sometimes, less.  Never let these people go.

Friendships like these and the memories they created are what you will take with you when you leave this world.  Cherish these people, and remember that they there is nothing more important in life than connecting with other souls.