The 7 Stages of a Twin-Flame Relationship

Recognition and Temporary Spiritual Awakening

Both twins recognize one another at the soul level and feel as if they have met before. Synchronous events surround the union, the heart chakra open and both souls quickly merge into a third unified energy. Both twins experience an acceleration of spiritual understanding.

The Purpose of the Recognition Stage & Temporary Awakenings Stage: To activate the memory of each soul’s life mission and to help awaken each twin to higher levels of consciousness.


The initial temporary spiritual awakening (illumination) fades. The ego (little self) begins to reemerge. One or both twins may attempt to fit the relationship into the “old model” of love, couple hood and relationship as it relates to their ego desires and learned false beliefs. Inner conflict arises.

false twinTwins ruminate on what they were taught to believe their beloved “should be” and how relationships are supposed to serve them. Both twins feel simultaneously inspired and toppled by power of the union. Doubts creep in, making one or both twins begin to view their beloved critically or suspiciously.

The Purpose of the Testing Stage: To cause outdated mental concepts about relationships to rise to the surface to be cleared.


The crisis of the twin is realizing they must either reject egoic beliefs about love relationships or reject their beloved. Having to shed “little self” or identity based beliefs and desires to embrace a higher expression of love can lead to stubbornness and anxiety.twin flamesFear can take hold, triggering many habitual dysfunctional emotional patterns. In staying present with the patterns, they can be witnessed and released.

Despite fears, both twins naturally come together in cycles for bonding, confession, forgiveness, and lovemaking. These rituals cement higher levels of consciousness into the energy fields of both twins.

The Purpose of the Crisis Stage: To provide opportunities for healing and maturing of mental and emotional bodies.

Runner Dynamic

The human spirit naturally fears annihilation in the face of the divine unified consciousness encoded inside the twin flame union.

twin flameThe pain body rises up and old ego survival mechanisms or “bottom of the barrel” emotional and mental patterns like defiance, resistance, manipulation, anger, punishing, and judgment arise.

One or both twins become emotionally and mentally flooded with deep pain from what feels like a soul level, rejection and abandonment.

The unbearable soul level pain leads one or both twins to withdraw physically and block communication in fear and futility. One or both twins may also unsuccessfully try to re-create the original unified harmony.

The Purpose of the Runner Dynamic: To propel both individuals toward God for healing and maturation of the spiritual body.


The direction and outcome of the relationship is surrendered to God in full faith and trust that the union is under divine protection. It is accepted that what is best and destined for the final physical harmonization with conspire in its own time. (Both twins must reach illumination in order to harmonize in the physical) The “runner” twin is allowed the space and f
reedom to choose to evolve at their own pace in their own way.

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At this stage, the frequency of compassion returns and maintains itself. The surrendered twin holds a heart space for their beloved while fully exploring life on way to becoming an illuminated human. This may be a time of channeling unconditional love into art, music, writing, teaching, active service or some other creative outlet.

The temptation to engage in ego battle or withdrawal is very seductive and difficult for many to resist, which is why many twins never reach Surrender, Radiance or Harmony.

Try to remember there is no room for judgment in twin soul pairings. Each soul learns much from walking its own path and choosing through its own will. Your non-attached loving thoughts will be felt by your beloved in the subconscious, keeping them strong.

Purpose of the Surrender Phase: To help each soul release the ego, develop regular communication with God and demonstrate their full trust in God to do what is best and when.

Self-Realization, Illumination and Radiance


The ego or little self-dies and God-force energy takes over. This leads to a complete spiritual awakening, arriving at one’s fully awakened divinity. This is the stage of radiating divine love rather than seeking romantic love.

At this stage, the surrendered twin’s emotional, mental, spiritual bodies arrive at full maturity. New creativity and healing abilities arise, which are put in service to assist others.

Purpose of the Radiance Stage: To establish an outward flow of divine love through one’s body and works, which vibrates at a level that uplifts humanity.


By this stage, both twins have awakened. They come together in the physical assimilate their newly evolved energies, flowing into new dynamic of their unified potential. Both twins integrate fully into the third energy of unconditional love in a way that influences others towards their own heart opening.

Purpose of the Harmonization Phase: To fulfill the intended mission of the Twin Flame union. Twin Flame Relationships come into your life to help mold you to embody the vibration of unconditional love.

Source: Emerge Grow Prosper

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7 thoughts on “The 7 Stages of a Twin-Flame Relationship”

  1. My twin and I have been together for a total of 4 years to date. Unfortunately, he is still in the
    runner stage and has been for the past 14 months. I miss him, I long for him, I wish we could be together and I am unable to move-on without keeping him in my heart, my thoughts and my soul every minute of every day. Is there anything that I could be doing to help the process?

    1. There are a few things you could be doing. First, you must understand that there is no such thing as random. Everything happens for a reason, even if we don’t yet see or understand the reason(s). With this understanding, you will learn to trust the universe. Who knows, perhaps this has happened so that our paths would cross?

    2. You have to surrender the outcome. We have to detach from who we have felt is our twin and let them go and only attach to god. A twin flame union is centered around your relationship with god. And a reflection of it. So if your twin returns when you surrender and you chase after them or try to control them it goes downhill. You start running after then so they run away. They reflect where we are at with god. Because when we try to control them we are running from god in ego and your twin who is you does the same thing. Union is free of ego. We seriously surrender to and lean on god the entire union. It never ends. We learn to make god’s plan our plan. That’s when suffering ends. When we are in detachment to things and people. We always only lean on god for wholeness and oneness. That’s freedom. That’s where unconditional love stands. And permanent union with your twin. Not easy. As humans letting go of control is painful and hard. But a divine partnership is not a relationship. It’s free of control and attachments and in full surrender, leaning on god alone. Very challenging but eventually life slaps you so hard you’re exhausted and realize god’s in control not you and you need to let go to have peace and joy again.

  2. Hello, my twin Flame and I recently met on the mental plain are communicating telepathically. We both really want to meet in real life, or even online. But we don’t really know how to get accurate answers about credentials to help that. Thank you for the article, it was very informative ?

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